Realistic Overdose


Realistic Overdose


Realistic Overdose


Realistic Overdose


Realistic Overdose



Why hasn't he called back?

So you met a Man, in your mind you guys hit it off immediately...

You start thinking about all the possibilities.

Seems like love at first sight...? so why hasn’t he called you back?

 Before we go any further, ask yourself how long has it been since you and your "new man" have talked?

Now ladies if the answer to this question is a "few minutes, hours or days the absolute first thing you need to do is RELAX. 
Take a deep breath and chill. 
You have to realize that men are humans, meaning they have lives that exist outside of you and outside of their phones.

 Some of us have careers, school, and/or children that we were dealing with before you even came into the picture.
The best thing to do is sit and be patient.

Please under no circumstances do you go into panic mode.
 I’ve seen women concoct the most ridiculous far fetched scenarios as to why a man has not called or called back.
Now if it has been more than a week and he still has not returned your call, there may be a few reasons why.
Keep in mind these are all coming from a man who has not returned a few phone calls himself, so I have a little experience in this arena.

Not interested. 

Yes, I said not interested. I’ve found that many women aren’t quite able to come to terms with this idea. It is very possible that during the initial interaction he decided not to pursue you any further.
It's simply a fact of life that not everyone will be interested. 

Regardless of how cute, smart, fashionable, spiritual, freaky, etc.. you are there is a chance that someone is just NOT interested.

Also keep in mind that just because he is not interested that does not automatically mean there is something wrong with you. 
It may be something in him that does not want to take your initial conversation any further.
Believe it or not there are certain people that are just better off as friends or even just associates.

He already got what he wanted!

The typical hit and run. 
Ladies sometimes these attractions are just physical. There are some of us that will do anything and I do mean ANYTHING (that’s another post lol) to achieve this goal. If after a few good poundings you notice the calls or texts slows or stops all together you are left puzzled and confused. 

The chances are you allowed yourself to be used, and then tossed to the side.
Stop beating your self up sweetheart. The fact of the matter is. he just wanted sex, he got it,  and kept it moving.

 Don’t take it personal, reflect, take mental not and recognize the signs so that next time you can either make sure it does not happen again or at the very least you are aware of and/or comfortable with what's going on.

Unable to Effectively Communicate

There are those males who simply don’t know how to have a decent conversation, let alone relationship due to  their past and learned habits. There can often be a grey area between these and the hit and run scenarios. One major difference is the nature of these relationships will be longer lasting and more emotionally involved. 

These will often seem promising damn near perfect but sooner or later they lead you crashing straight into a brick wall. 

He is actually doing you a favor in this scenario because if continued, not only will their emotional baggage become yours but you may even begin blaming yourself for something that was caused before you came into the picture.

Ladies remember it's nothing personal in any of these situations. 
 Once you meet the right one, which most of you will, none of these past situations will even matter.



It's Not About Being Real, It's About Being Honest

Everyone's favorite word, and also one of most misused words. The word "Real". It seems as if you can't log on to any social media platform, without seeing or hearing someone refer to how "real" they are regardless of it is the truth or not. 
Being "real" has turned into a badge of honor, that most people do not deserve.  
People self appoint themselves the "realest" without approval or even a head nod from anyone else. 

If it's one thing that I have learned is "real recognizes real", if a person is as real as they claim to be, it's normally other people mentioning it instead of them shouting it at the top of their tongues or the tip of their twitter fingers... ha. 

Another observation that I have made regarding being " real" is in most cases everyone has their own definition of what being real actually means. Like every other word in the English dictionary, there is Webster’s meaning, and then there is societies definition, often referred to the colloquialism definition of the word.

The dictionary defines “Real” as
Adjective1.True; not merely ostensible, nominal, or apparent:The real reason for an act.2.Existing or occurring as fact; actual rather than imaginary, ideal, a story taken from real life.3.being an actual thing; having objective existence; not imaginary:The events you will see in the film are real and not just made up.4.being actually such; not merely so-called:a real victory.5.genuine; not counterfeit, artificial, or imitation; authentic:a real antique; a real diamond; real silk.6.unfeigned or sincere:real sympathy; a real friend.
Plain and simple, “Real” means to be Genuine and Factual regardless of your emotions, opinions, or other underlining circumstances.

This is the issue with the word “Real”, what it actually means and how we define it are not one in the same.  After multiple conversations and various observations instead of using the word “real’ more suited word we should be using is HONEST!

How many of you who consider yourself “Real” can also in the same breath call yourselves Honest?

That is what we want to focus on, HONESTY. 
We need more HONEST people and less “real” people because at the end of the day being “real” is subjective and depends on your individual characteristics, values, upbringing etc. 
On the other hand being Honest is plain black and white, being honest simply means telling the truth.  Being of fact and it is not opinion or emotion based.

What I’ve noticed is that many people are unable to be HONEST, with themselves or with other people. They either bend the truth or flat out lie abut what’s going on, what they have said, or what they have done. When confronted with the truth they either disregard it or try and manipulate it to fit what they would like for the truth to be.

Regardless of how you may feel, the truth is the truth. Emotions out of it, you cannot be upset with a person for telling you the truth.  There are many people who are surrounded by people who cannot or just will not tell them the truth. Either out of fear of their reaction fear of losing them, or malice. There are people who will deliberately hide the truth from you in order to manipulate you or a situation. These people are not “Real” and they are definitely not honest.

In the society we are in, we have strayed farther and farther away from honest and genuine behavior.
For whatever  reason people are not  comfortable being honest with themselves, and others. 
I've heard that at times we withhold the truth from people out of love. Although this sounds nice, but the reality of it is, it is a cop out. I
t is an excuse. 7/10 people do not withhold the truth from you out of love, but out of fear of your reaction. 
Do not allow people to manipulate you into thinking they lied to you for your benefit.

Genuine and brutal honesty is something a lot of people ask for, but very few are willing to give it to others or even handle it. When was the last time you asked someone to tell you the truth, but you did not agree or even like it. Recently? That seems to be the case with many people. 

Do not be afraid to be honest  with others, and do not be afraid to receive honesty! 

Wouldn't you rather be upset with a person over the truth then on "good" terms with them because of a lie? 

In terms of relationships,  it is always better to have open communication and complete honesty with your intimate partner, friend, or business associate. 
Although the truth may sting in the beginning, if it is told with good intention and delivered in a considerate manner most people will be able to not only respect it, but appreciate it. 

In a world where lies are being told from every angle it is always refreshing to be about people who are truthful and honest. 

Do not be REAL be HONEST 


Good-Bye Snapback and Fitted Hats. Hello Baseball Caps.

In all honesty, I didn't notice how popular baseball caps were becoming until Bryson Tiller and his new fanbase made it so apparent. I've never seen the guy make an appearance without having one on and although it was probably unintentional he made a clear fashion statement that his  fans decided to take and run with.
Baseball caps are not something new, but the way they are being included as part as everyday outfits by both sex's is defiantly a new trend....

From wearing them on a bad hair day, to pairing them with your favorite dress.... baseball hats, especially those with catchy phrases and visually appealing pictures are  now seen everywhere on everyone! 

 In the past, in terms of hats Snapbacks and fitted hats have always been the top contenders for as long as I can remember, even when people looked ridiculous in them; specifically women.
Snapback's and fitted always seem to look so bulky, so we are more than happy to see baseball caps joining the hat race.

 Am I giving Bryson credit for this trend? Eh- partially, but needless to say the people have figured out their way into making ball caps fashionable. 

Women have become very good with  baseball fashion statement.
We know that  these types of caps  were normally only worn by men on the field, but times have changed! Women are making ball caps sexy and stylish.
You can throw a ball cap on with pretty much any everyday look.  If you feel like making an exaggerated outfit look more simple or effortless, throwing on a baseball cap is a perfect addition!
 You have options.


Music Monday: Justin Stone

Good music is essential, and that's what we have for you today.
Rapper, Justin Stone by way of Columbus Ohio is here to leave his mark on the music industry.
 Born in Delaware, preachers kid Justin began  picked up the mic early on in high school, but his love for music came way before then. It turned into more than a hobby when he realized music was one of the few things he enjoyed doing day in and day out. Music became an obsession of his, as he reminisces back on getting out of school running straight home and writing rhymes until he fell asleep. 
His obsession and dedication paid off because this 19 yr. old emcee gets busy!  
On his most recent single Speechless produced by Kevin Peterson, Stone shares his ambitions to make a professional career of rap. 
Justin addresses his doubters, critics, and haters alike as he fantasizes about his career elevating to heights far past  anyone's expectations. 

Determined to prove naysayers wrong you can feel the passion, sincerity, and dedication in his voice. 
Stone released his album “Long Time Coming” earlier this year, which includes the single Speechless.  Listen Below!
Song: Soundcloud
Twitter: Justin Stone
Instagram - Justinstone25
Website -


The Evolution of the Bomber Jacket

Believe it or not, bomber jackets are over 90 years old tracing back to WWI. The material of these jackets were said to be the warmest and protective for the soldiers at the time. Originally bombers were worn by "bomber" pilots during battle. Moving forward the quality of this jacket had not gone unnoticed and was instantly the number one jacket among military soldiers. 

"Also known as a flight jacket or bombardier jacket, a bomber jacket is a garment that was originally created for use by pilots and solders. After first being worn in World War I, the bomber jacket has grown in popularity throughout the world since. .
Because the majority of airplanes flown in World War I did not feature enclosed cockpits, pilots had to wear a jacket that would keep them warm while also giving them the mobility to fly the plane. In 1915, the Royal Flying Corps pilots began wearing long leather coats and the style passed on to the French, American and Belgian military. By the time the United States entered World War I in 1917, the government had established the Aviation Clothing Board to provide comfortable and warm leather jackets to all pilots. The original bomber jacket featured a high wraparound collar that protected the pilot's neck from the wind, zipper closures and snug waists and cuffs to keep the pilot insulated and warm. In addition, the jackets were lined with fur.After the war ended in 1918, the success of the bomber jacket led to people like Leslie Irvin to design and manufacture a similar garment to the general public. In 1926, Irvin became the first person to mass produce the bomber jacket and sold them to both the general public and to militaries like the United States, France and Great Britain. Because of the success of these jackets, Irvin had to hire subcontractors to mass produce the garments. This led to a variety of different styles and designs for the original flight jacket. By the onset of World War II, it became clear that the airplane would play a crucial role in the fighting. Because the majority of bombing runs took place at altitudes above 25,000 feet, pilots were exposed to temperatures as low as - 50 degrees. Although the planes now featured enclosed cabins, they were often not insulated. As a result, wearing a flight jacket became a required piece of equipment for every pilot and crew member.In the United States, the original flight jacket was known as the Type A-2. Manufactured in the United States, the jacket was standard equipment for every Air Force pilot. Many pilots decorated the jacket with their squadron patches and artwork that was prominently displayed on the back. Defining characteristics of the A-2 Flight Jacket included a snap flap front pocket that was used for storing equipment and gear, not for keeping the hands warm. In the military, a person putting their hands in a pocket is considered insubordinate. Made famous by the movie Top Gun, the second most popular type of bomber jacket is the G-1. Unlike the A-2, this flight jacket was designed to be worn by the Navy, Marine Corps and Coast Guard."
So how did we get here today? Word of mouth and exposure! The design of bomber jackets have evolved tremendously. Its almost impossible to not want one of your own. There are no limitations when it comes to recreating a look with this design. 

Now, the bomber jacket is a symbol of style, power and leadership with everyone from presidents to executives sporting the garment. The bomber jacket is characterized by its sleek black or dark brown leather material that features an elasticized waistband that hugs the hem of the jacket to the wearer's waist. As a result, the jacket is fitted at the waist and loose around the person's stomach and chest. Generally, the jackets have cuffed sleeves and a metal zipper. Because of the bomber jacket's popularity, many companies have adapted new styling to the iconic look.

Dress it up or dress it down! There's something hot about a nice oversized bomber and  heels.


Man to Man, Stop running away from your emotions....a man's perspective.

Today's society has painted a distorted picture of what a  man is suppose to be.
Apparently males who show any type of emotions (sadness, kindness, gentleness,sympathy, or jealousy) are weak, too emotional, feminine, etc the list goes on.  

Meanwhile those that display their aggressive, misogynistic, violent,  and or  obnoxious behavior are crowned by society as being "Real Men". As a person who is less on the aggressive side but definitely sees myself as a manly man, I sometimes shake my head at how I am received by women and other men. I am highly introverted person who developed a twisted sense of pride in portraying the picture perfect facade as an emotionless, self centered asshole. 

These broken thoughts birthed a false sense of security within me. I will be the first to tell you this distorted and twisted view  that has been created by society has in in some ways psychologically emotionally and made me feel pinned down in various aspects of my life.
For years this thinking imprisoned my actions and emotions, which played a part creating the insecure, lost, broken, damaged man I use to be and some days revert back to.
In every relationship, whether it be intimate, professional or  just friendship I would deny myself the ability to genuinely feel. Instead, I would purposely behave in a certain manner and only display the emotions I knew were expected of me. 

So if there was ever an inkling of  me being too emotional or caring to much I would deny those emotions air to breath and suffocate them by replacing them with what other men around me would do or say, only to reflect back later feeling lost in moment and regretful at the impulsive choices made. 

Becoming  trapped in this  way of thinking has pushed me to the point where I don't truly know what I feel or even how to process feelings. 

I conditioned myself into ignoring what I felt and placed my energy into how other people viewed me. It was imperative that my weaknesses be hidden and that I was to never be caught being vulnerable. Instead, I placed my energy into upholding the image society had portrayed what a real man should be. 
Fear controlled me. If I were to express any emotions that would leave me powerless, weak , which in my eyes made me worthless.

It wasn't until recently God revealed the many obstacles in my way including some of my most valued friendships and relationships. I prayed to God for inner peace because I was tired of being drained from moving around day to day  with built up aggression, frustration, bitterness, and brokenness. These friendships were lifelines to me at one point and to just up and dead them hurt but at the same time gave a deep sense of relief. These friendships were the closest I'd  ever came to being open or developing a "genuine relationship" where could truly express my feeling to these select people. Looking back  on some of those relationships were not the most healthy relationships. 

God revealed to me that when I ran around with that distorted perception of how a man should operate it invited  misguided emotions which molded a more confused me.

Many of the relationships in my life were built on some very misguided  shaky foundations. I had very few relationships where I felt comfortable enough to openly  show emotions towards the other person.
My pastor always told me that when God speaks we won't always like what's told to us, and that's real! It was like a sick joke though, on me! Because now I have to share this with complete strangers just to even get this weight my chest. It's mandatory  therapy and agony all in one.

It's crazy how all the years of hurting people, being destructive, and irresponsible with people's feelings to mask my own has me here probably more damaged than any of the people who I hurt or looked down on as being soft and emotional, which brings me to the realization that having and dealing with real feelings does not make you weak, but it HUMAN! You need to be able to show emotions in order to really connect with other people.

It is easy to hide behind the mask of insecurity and indulging in this tough guy, insensitive, misguided clown agenda society pushes on young men. 

As for me now for I'm sliding out the Moncler jacket with the beef and brocs to keep warm for this long winter though I don’t think I can become any colder or become any more numb even at 25 degrees. Blessings.



Lepa Styles: Studio Fix

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MUA: Jessica Amaka